Kids Today… WTF?!

Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with kids today? There is a total lack of respect with kids in society today and the world is completely screwed. Multiple times over this Christmas holiday off work I have been out at stores and have seen children screaming at their parents and back talking like it was no big deal. Then I see the parents just laugh and brush it off like their kid is a fucking angel?!

These kids need a swift kick in their asses before the cruel world knocks them down. I am in my mid-thirties and never in my entire childhood could I have gotten away with talking to my parents so disrespectfully.

The world is screwed if these kids are “the future”…. SMH

Friends With Benefits

It’s pretty funny how people can perceive you personally as well as in business.

During my career I have met many individuals who simply were friendly under the notion of what they could get out of me or my firm professionally. After months and sometimes years of friendship certain things happen and you start to see the true colors of these people.

It becomes very clear when the pressure is turned up as to who is your friend, and who was simply occupying space with you to see what they could get out of you.

Personally, I prefer to work only with friends. We are a privately held firm and we need to align our cultures and beliefs with others, in order to develop that strong professional relationship.

It’s interesting how people crumble in the pressure cooker of life, and their true colors come out allowing you to see their true motivation.

To those of you that can’t handle the pressure cooker. Fuck you.

Cut your losses!

Everyone needs to know when to cut their losses.

No matter personal or professional we all have losses that we all need to cut. It sometimes takes us getting our feelings and pride thrown up in our faces, but we need to have it thrown in our faces sooner than later.

In your professional lives if we keep an employee on staff for too long because we like them, we end up bleeding money on someone because we have blind hope that it will work out for the sake of our own pride, as well as the desire to see your employees succeed.

In our personal lives if you are not losing friends, you are not growing. True friends will understand your growth and will be only a phone call away. This is very true and it takes a lot of guts to realize this in our personal lives because our friends and personal interactions are what keeps us centered and bring us comfort.

If you have the same best friends for 10-20 years, you likely haven’t grown. Try to make yourself change and adapt. Change is necessary for growth, as a seed does not stay a seed.

Be careful who you sh*t on!

In all aspects of life you will run into people not just once, but multiple times. Don’t ask why, but generally if you’ve seen someone once, there’s a very high likelihood that you’ll see them again. No matter if personal of professional, you will likely run into the same people later in life.

A great example of this, which is very relevant as of recently for me is a business partner we worked with in Los Angeles a few years back. My company had a large project out in Los Angeles, California with this project team that was comprised of about 5 individuals who were living out there permanently to finish up this start-up project they were working on. When working on these larger projects, you get pretty close to the people you’re working with because they are who you are with literally ALL day. I am not emphasizing when i say all day. You live in the same corporate housing, you eat at the same restaurants, you work on the same job site, it’s literally nuts. Over the 18 months we were on-site my partners and i got very close with the project team out there that we were working with. These guys were from ALL walks of life and all countries.

One thing i forgot to mention was the fact that these guys you are working with, are literally your weekend co-pilots. Lots of times it’s more of a pain in the butt to travel back home Friday after work, just to fly back on Monday morning or Sunday evening. More times than not we would end up staying in Los Angeles to play golf over the weekend and just goof around. We did toooons of dumb shit while out there. It was great.

Once our project was closed out we all shook hands and parted our ways like men do and haven’t spoken since.

(Fast forward 6 years)

My company is working on a project, and we hear our client is going to be bringing in a new internal project team for us to work with. We really don’t think anything of it because it’s a longstanding client of ours, and they’re just shifting chess pieces around essentially. Earlier this week my company was asked to come in for a meeting so we could meet the new project team that would be handling this project for us, and guess who walks through the door?

The same three guys we worked with back in Los Angeles for 18 months! As soon as we saw each other we all busted out laughing and exchanged hugs, laughs, etc. These were three guys that i thought i would NEVER see again in my entire life despite spending close to two years of our lives together. These are guys that literally, not only live on the other side of the country, but two of them live on the other side of the world. The likelihood of us seeing each other again was so slim, i never thought it would happen.

Now, we are working on this dream project with people that we have a GREAT professional and personal relationship with…

Goes to show you…. Almost a decade later… People remember you. They remember the good times. The bad times. They remember everything. Be careful who you shit on, and how you treat people. You never know when God’s going to put someone or something back into your life!

Un-Friend People. Do it.

Nasty-D and I were talking about this the other day, and from both of our perspectives, it is quite accurate. Nasty-D is a few years younger than me, but we both grew up in the same part of town, with the same types of people.

Look at the people in your high school and college that were addicted to each other. I’m sure for everyone there’s that one group of bitchy stick up the ass idiots in your life. This applies to men and women, doesn’t matter trust me.

Look at those people now, in your late twenties and early thirties.. They don’t look so hot anymore do they? They likely have the same group of friends, thrive for that same interaction, with the same people, doing the same things, making the same salary, making the same decisions, with the same consequences and outcomes. Sounds thrilling doesn’t it? Not so much.

I spent my time in high school as well as college distancing myself from these people for the sole fact that i had one goal in mind, to live a financially independent life and not have my wants of today negatively impact my wants of next year. I sacrificed a few years of partying in college, for decades of freedom. That also meant un-friending some of those people that simply brought me down in life. I look back and i do miss some of the dumb things i used to do, but would i give up all this that i have now, for some stupid stuff 15 years ago? Not so much. A phase of your life should determine the rest of your life.

Nasty-D was the same way. Graduated high school early, graduated college early, and is now working his ass off making TONS of money doing something he loves. All because he sacrificed all of the social bullshit in high school and college, to succeed later in life.

Don’t lose sight of your goals and what you REALLY want out of life.

Know YOUR value. Be a Lion!

Too many times, more so than not we lose sight of our own worth.

Your main motivation and goal in life should always be you. Whatever defines “you” is up for definition, but your main drive is in life should be you. Whatever “you” is. “You” can be defined a million different ways, but for us it is primarily whatever encompasses our family & friends.

Know that putting “you” first will only result in a fruitful and lucrative life.

Anyone that tells you different, doesn’t understand, and they likely work a shitty 9-5 job slaving away for “the man”.

In a world full of sheep, be a lion. Lions don’t worry about the opinions of sheep.