Kids Today… WTF?!

Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with kids today? There is a total lack of respect with kids in society today and the world is completely screwed. Multiple times over this Christmas holiday off work I have been out at stores and have seen children screaming at their parents and back talking like it was no big deal. Then I see the parents just laugh and brush it off like their kid is a fucking angel?!

These kids need a swift kick in their asses before the cruel world knocks them down. I am in my mid-thirties and never in my entire childhood could I have gotten away with talking to my parents so disrespectfully.

The world is screwed if these kids are “the future”…. SMH

Financial Wealth!

Most everyone defines wealth in their own way. Some people define wealth as financial, some define it with family, and others define it with their careers.

All in all however you define it, I’m still a firm believer in financial wealth being a byproduct of your family and your career. If you’ve got a supportive family and a good career, the means of financial wealth will eventually come your way. What you decide to do with it once it comes to you, is really what sets you apart from everyone else.

Some people take it and blow it on a new boat, others take it and spend it on a new fancy car, others nest it away to ensure it’s a cushion for their family, and they keep their head down and spirits up.

Let your financial wealth be a byproduct of the rest of your life, and your life will always be full of the things that matter!

Labor Day – Who & Why

This past weekend we took our families out on the lake for a nice long weekend to simply cap off the summer in one last big bash. Here in the South though, there is this thing called “fall break”, which is honestly a bullshit school holiday where teachers and student get to take time off before a month and half of crunch time.

While on the lake you see all of the typical individuals you would expect. Everyone there is broken up into these categories…

  • Successful men that bought a family boat for their families to enjoy
  • Men that over-finances a boat for their families to enjoy
  • Rednecks that bought something for themselves to enjoy
  • Rental boaters who simply want to trash what everyone else has worked hard for

Labor day in itself has always been something that I have perceived as a nice break at the end of summer to celebrate some nice grind-time at the office. The first 3 categories of these boaters, i can say in some form or fashion do deserve to celebrate labor day….

There is one group of these boaters who simply are parasites and they always seems to be consistently the same types of people. The rental boaters are typically showing up with a group of about 8-16 individuals to rent a boat that can legally hold 7 people. The result is now two watercraft that have idiots driving them. Now, i understand some of you may be thinking why i call them such things, but when you show up to rent a boat and you’re sucking on a pacifier and you’re in your early 20’s…. You have no leg to stand on.

Typically, on the lake there’s the experienced boaters and then these rental folks who ruin it for everyone who come out rolling on molly with their 1-hitters in their pockets like they’re going to a 311 concert. I can appreciate both of those things, but when those things can cause harm to my family or put my family in danger, you can go fuck yourself.

It seems like every fucking weekend there’s the same TYPE of people showing up to rent boats, the same type of people who do not respect themselves to even begin respecting others, or other people’s property.

If they don’t respect themselves, how the hell can you expect them to respect someone else’s property or be mindful of someone else’s life?

Cut your losses!

Everyone needs to know when to cut their losses.

No matter personal or professional we all have losses that we all need to cut. It sometimes takes us getting our feelings and pride thrown up in our faces, but we need to have it thrown in our faces sooner than later.

In your professional lives if we keep an employee on staff for too long because we like them, we end up bleeding money on someone because we have blind hope that it will work out for the sake of our own pride, as well as the desire to see your employees succeed.

In our personal lives if you are not losing friends, you are not growing. True friends will understand your growth and will be only a phone call away. This is very true and it takes a lot of guts to realize this in our personal lives because our friends and personal interactions are what keeps us centered and bring us comfort.

If you have the same best friends for 10-20 years, you likely haven’t grown. Try to make yourself change and adapt. Change is necessary for growth, as a seed does not stay a seed.

Good Book! Read it!

This will be quick, as i don’t have much time today with how hectic work has been the past two weeks. Unfortunately, it does not show any signs of letting up which is also a blessing and a curse!

I stumbled upon a book called Living With a Seal by Jesse Itzler, and it was recommended to me by one of by buddies who actually knows Jesse in some weird way. He said that it is by far one of the funniest reads because of the way the book is written, and if you grew up in the 70’s  or 80’s  due to the mindset of the book, you’ll find it even funnier because of how our parents were. There’s a bunch of stuff that as an adult you can easily look over, and lose sight of. This book was a good reset for me, and likely will be for many other people.

Growing up my parents had a very “militarily” style of parenting, which made me and my brother very strong people. There was never a day of feeling down on yourself, or a day or not making your bed, getting up late, not doing chores, and not being a good person. Point blank, every day you had objectives, and you accomplished them. Period.

No matter if it was washing the dishes, taking the tractor out to cut the fields, or even just cleaning around the house, you had objectives. And you were only told to do them about 2-3 times, until you started catching on. As a pre-teen, if you saw the floors were dirty, you’d better get mopping before mom catches the floors looking like this. If she told you to mop the floors she would critique the shit out of you until those floors were perfect. Much easier to do it before she could complain. This logic applied to everything we did growing up in Georgia far before it was populated with housewives and country clubs.

This book i read literally reiterated all of the things my parents taught me growing up. On days i didn’t need to be up early, i was waking up early to be successful and complete my objectives for the day. Period. (They always got done)

As an adult, now with a family, company, and more relationships than i know what to do with, there comes a time where you ask yourself “What are my daily objectives?”

The things that make you TICK. Figure it out. It’s a hell of a great book, especially if you’re a child born in the 70’s or 80’s.

 

Be careful who you sh*t on!

In all aspects of life you will run into people not just once, but multiple times. Don’t ask why, but generally if you’ve seen someone once, there’s a very high likelihood that you’ll see them again. No matter if personal of professional, you will likely run into the same people later in life.

A great example of this, which is very relevant as of recently for me is a business partner we worked with in Los Angeles a few years back. My company had a large project out in Los Angeles, California with this project team that was comprised of about 5 individuals who were living out there permanently to finish up this start-up project they were working on. When working on these larger projects, you get pretty close to the people you’re working with because they are who you are with literally ALL day. I am not emphasizing when i say all day. You live in the same corporate housing, you eat at the same restaurants, you work on the same job site, it’s literally nuts. Over the 18 months we were on-site my partners and i got very close with the project team out there that we were working with. These guys were from ALL walks of life and all countries.

One thing i forgot to mention was the fact that these guys you are working with, are literally your weekend co-pilots. Lots of times it’s more of a pain in the butt to travel back home Friday after work, just to fly back on Monday morning or Sunday evening. More times than not we would end up staying in Los Angeles to play golf over the weekend and just goof around. We did toooons of dumb shit while out there. It was great.

Once our project was closed out we all shook hands and parted our ways like men do and haven’t spoken since.

(Fast forward 6 years)

My company is working on a project, and we hear our client is going to be bringing in a new internal project team for us to work with. We really don’t think anything of it because it’s a longstanding client of ours, and they’re just shifting chess pieces around essentially. Earlier this week my company was asked to come in for a meeting so we could meet the new project team that would be handling this project for us, and guess who walks through the door?

The same three guys we worked with back in Los Angeles for 18 months! As soon as we saw each other we all busted out laughing and exchanged hugs, laughs, etc. These were three guys that i thought i would NEVER see again in my entire life despite spending close to two years of our lives together. These are guys that literally, not only live on the other side of the country, but two of them live on the other side of the world. The likelihood of us seeing each other again was so slim, i never thought it would happen.

Now, we are working on this dream project with people that we have a GREAT professional and personal relationship with…

Goes to show you…. Almost a decade later… People remember you. They remember the good times. The bad times. They remember everything. Be careful who you shit on, and how you treat people. You never know when God’s going to put someone or something back into your life!

Good Housewife… Bad House-guest!

We have a group of friends that’s pretty out there. Many run and operate very successful businesses, and then others are simply have no desire in life to further develop. My wife and I have a very good relationship with most all of our friends that share the same desires and have the same drive as we do. We are very determined to be successful and make the best life possible for our children. As for the friends that have no desire to further develop, those ones are the issue.

While i was away on a business trip my wife invited one of her girlfriends over who falls into that category of “no desire to further develop”. One of those girls that didn’t go to college, didn’t want to stand up for herself and have strong meaningful relationships, didn’t want to build up her future while she was younger, etc. Now, she is in her mid thirties and has the job of a 23 year old and a boyfriend who is literally one of the nicest guys you would ever meet, but she is such a cluster-fuck she starts a million fights a day with him simply for the fun of it. (Bitch is crazy, right!?)

(Begin rant…. )

So, I arrive home from my business trip and see her car parked in our driveway. Our driveway is huge. We have a 3 car garage, and a driveway where you could park 4 cars in the driveway and still pull all 3 cars into the garage. Don’t worry, she parks right in the middle of the driveway blocking my garage door so i cant pull my car into the garage. This is about the 100th time she has done this, and she consistently does it every time she comes over.

(At this point, i am mildly annoyed….)

I finally find a way to squeeze my car past her, pull into the garage, and i walk inside to see my lovely wife in the kitchen making dinner for our family.

I say hey to her, give her a kiss, say hey to our kids, gets my welcome-home hugs, and put my bag down. Sitting on my sofa in silence is this crazy bitch friend of my wife’s… In silence. Doesn’t turn around to say hello to me, despite she has been at me home all day, eating our food, drinking our liquor, and really just invades our f*cking space! At this point, i still haven’t received a “hello” from her, so i walk upstairs and decompress for about an hour.

Oh, one variable i haven’t told everyone about is the fact that this girl also finds it necessary to bring her f*cking dog over to our house… All the damn time. It’s not just any dog… It’s a dog that is poorly trained, has long nails, and continually farts, shits, and pisses on every square inch of your home. Despite the fact that the dog is like 5 years old. Any dog owner knows that if you have issues with your dog that are disciplinary like this, all of those issues stem from the owner sucking at life.

So, i have not only this “girlfriend” of my wife’s over, but we are also graced with the presence of this animal that desperately needs training. (Not his fault, can’t be mad at the dog)

To add insult to injury and compound the havoc our house guests are costing us, we are now having to deal with having this dog IN our home. Want to know what’s worse than having this dog IN your house though? Putting him outside, because this little f*cker jumps on your doors and scratches the shit out of them. Rips the paint right off the doors, and smear mud all the way up them.

You think that’s it? Oh no… Don’t worry… I come downstairs after my 1 hour “mental health break” and i sit down for dinner… Don’t worry our “house guest” joins us for dinner as well. As i am sitting down for dinner her dog not only pisses on our floor ONCE but TWICE!!! Right next to where i am eating by the way…

So, i say some rude comments i am sure when this happens, and then our house guest finally leaves…  After she has pissed on our floors, scratched our doors, slung mud on our doors, eaten our food, drank our liquor, and blocked my garage door.

In closing i leave you all with this… While i love my wife, she knows she pushed by buttons that day. I love her regardless of her choice of house guest. She is always accommodating and takes pride in making our house, a home for everyone that comes over.

As a house-guest…. If you do dumb shit like i described above, please just drive your car off a f*cking bridge.

Know YOUR value. Be a Lion!

Too many times, more so than not we lose sight of our own worth.

Your main motivation and goal in life should always be you. Whatever defines “you” is up for definition, but your main drive is in life should be you. Whatever “you” is. “You” can be defined a million different ways, but for us it is primarily whatever encompasses our family & friends.

Know that putting “you” first will only result in a fruitful and lucrative life.

Anyone that tells you different, doesn’t understand, and they likely work a shitty 9-5 job slaving away for “the man”.

In a world full of sheep, be a lion. Lions don’t worry about the opinions of sheep.

Musical Appreciation – Not what you think!

In our group of friends, we are lucky enough to have several of them who are in actively touring bands and many more that are simply retired from the game. While we have maintained these relationships with them for years in all different genres of music, there has been one consistent variable for all of them which has been an issue… Family.

As paying consumers, we see the musical performance (concert) we would like to see, or we get the CD (download) that we pay for. We do not see the behind the scenes struggle of what it actually takes and the sacrifice that these touring musicians put up with to go on tour and be with their “fans”. For us, for months at a time we go without hearing from our closest friends, simply because their life is consumed by putting on a performance. These guys leave their families for months, to only return for a few days between legs of a tour and then head right back out. They miss birthdays, anniversaries, they miss growing their lives with their significant other, they miss everything.

They sacrifice their personal lives to make sure they empower our lives and provide us with something that brings us joy as the listener (consumer).

With this being said, do you think it’s right that we don’t support these people?

Go out. Find a good new band. Support those who empower your lives and bring you joy!

When you don’t go out and support what WE like as a community/society, we end up with train wreck shit-holes like Miley Cyrus that are a PR gamble for record labels to simply get easy publicity. We don’t need another Miley Cyrus.

Deuces.

This “Must Have” for Everyone!

So, if anyone knows us they’ll quickly figure out that we like a few things…

Cars, Planes, Guns, Golf, Fishing, Watches, and… Gadgets. Oh my Heavens the gadgets! We love things that make our lives better/easier, as most of us want to spend more of our time doing the stuff we love.

Recently, we stumbled across these and we absolutely love them. Snap Power

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These guys literally, took a standard receptacle cover plate, and embedded LED’s with a light sensor so when it gets dark, they automatically come on! The best part, they’re literally EFFORTLESS to install. (Seriously, go check them out… )

These are great for lighting a hallway, or even using in the kitchen for your countertop receptacles. We have kids that are always playing with night lights, so this solves that problem pretty good and quick for us, plus they light up the kitchen countertops extremely well!

Hope you all enjoy these as much as we have around our homes!